Posts tagged “Comfydence”

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me… 
Remember the ditty from school? 
 
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. What bollocks that is...on my Facebook feed recently an article came up from Twitter July 2017 with the hashtag #TheySaid. 
 
#TheySaid 
The article is basically women relaying stories about comments made by parents or other people during childhood or teenage years that stuck well into adult life. Quite often offhand, throw away comments from our nearest and dearest that weren’t necessarily said with malice but have an enormous impact for a very long time. 
 
These words have cut deep. 
 
There are scars. Some are still open wounds, twenty, thirty or forty years on...comments made about our bodies, our physical appearance, our weight, perceived inadequacies related to our appearance. 
 
It’s hot, hot, hot and you want to stay cool.Long floaty maxi dresses are great, but for many of us (who don’t have a thigh gap) hot weather and dresses just don’t cut it because of the hell that is often referred to as ‘chub rub’, inner thigh chafing. 
If you suffer from this you know how uncomfortable it can be. 
Me and my trusted gang of researchers in the Let's Chat Wardrobe Wobbles group on Facebook have been on the interweb for you and found a few possible solutions that might help widen your wardrobe choices this summer and beyond. 
 
Talc/talc free alternatives 
A low cost, portable option that your nana might have used back in the day 
 
 
Longline pants/cycling shorts 
Not the sexiest thing in the world but neither is red raw skin 
 
 
Bandalettes 
The ‘sexy’ solution - make sure you order the right size though or they roll up or fall down 
 
 
I speak a lot, in my role as a colour and image consultant, about style personality and levels of dressing. 
Knowing your style personality is the key to understanding why you have all those unworn clothes languishing in the wardrobe. Some of them even with tags on. They looked great in the shop, you really like that shirt but every time you’ve tried it on to actually wear there’s something about it that is not quite right – and you can’t put your finger on what it is. I’ll put money on the fact that it is not aligned with your innate style personality. 
 
There are 6 main style personality types: classic, urbanista, dramatic, natural, romantic and creative. We usually fall into one category, perhaps with a secondary influence. The categories determine your tastes, whether you like fuss and frills or plain and simple, the types of fabrics you prefer, the styles and shapes, sometimes colours, types of patterns and designs etc. 
 
I have a free quiz that you can take which helps you get an idea of which style personality you might fall under. – Sign up for it here...style-personality-quiz 
Be your flawesome self. What's your biggest 'flaw'? Do you think other people are anywhere near as conscious of it as you are? 
Do you think they even notice? Perhaps they are so hung up on their own 'flaws' they have no interest or concerns with yours. 
 
My biggest 'flaw' in my eyes is my limp. I've had it since childhood, I've had lifelong problem with my hip and developed a limp after one of my surgeries despite my legs being the same length.  
 
My limp has even got a name, it's... called the 'Trendelenburg Gait'. it's a specific type of limp - not just a common or garden limp. 
 
Some days it's worse than others but it's always there. My big goal after my hip replacement a few years ago was to improve my gait - it didn't happen...I'm stuck with it. 
 
I'm not telling you this for sympathy or anything. I'm telling you in order to illustrate my point ...Just recently, twice within the space of a fortnight, I was asked why I was limping by people I'd known and mixed with in my networking circle for quite sometime, they thought I'd hurt myself. 
 
My biggest flaw had not even registered with them previously, something that I'm conscious about had not even been on their radar for whatever reason. 
 
Food for thought ladies...what are you focussing on that isn't really on anyone else's radar? 
'Be yourself, everyone else is taken.' Oscar Wilde Who are you? Do you feel like you really are showing up everyday and being yourself?  
 
Are you being kept prisoner by your clothes? Do you sometimes wish you looked different but feel scared to try anything new incase your friends or family think you look 'different'?  
Here's me on the sofa - fast forward to around 18 minutes in to here me chatting about my 21 Day Style Challenge 
Watch the video to learn about the first step in my 5 Steps to Effortless Style Workshop 
Do you know Tryer Tracey? She’s always on a diet of one kind or another.  
I’m in a really supportive coaching group. It’s run by a woman who really walks her walk and talks her talk.  
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