I ended up being induced 10 days after my due date. Even then he was reluctant to be born. Finally, with the intervention of forceps I delivered an 8lb 10oz baby boy with tufty blonde hair and beautiful big blue eyes. He was just perfect and I fell immediately in love with him. 

 

The reason I'm telling you about all this is because it was the ultimate life changing time. Having a baby changes everything about your life. If you are a parent you'll know from experience. Your priorities change and what was once important becomes less so. I had planned on going back to my college lecturing job just 3 days a week after maternity leave. That never happened, I couldn’t face leaving him with someone else looking after him while I commuted 140 miles a day to look after and teach other people’s kids. 

My question was for market research purposes, not to be controversial or start a debate. Someone had suggested I ought to use the term in my marketing and was curious to see what people thought. I got quite a few responses and it seems to be a subject that ruffles feathers and divides opinion. Some people find the term offensive, mean and rude, others see it as an alternative term for unhealthy. 

 

I personally don’t like it but it seems to be the recognised term within the fashion industry. If I’m looking for clothes online I Google ‘plus size’. The answers I got ranged from size 14 upwards but most people thought size 20 was the starting point. Is it just a term to describe a body shape? Like short, tall, athletic, curvy etc? Some of the people who responded were apologetic, as if they were worried about offending people. Others thought it might be better to use terms that seem less derogatory. 

 

I wonder why it is seen as a negative term? If you look for the dictionary definition of the word plus it has quite positive connotations… Advantage, asset, higher end of the scale, extra, a perk, prerequisite. It also says it can refer to larger than normal size in women’s clothing. What’s normal? Is it the same as average? Because the average woman in the UK is a size 16, 5ft 3″ and weighs 11 stone apparently. 

If you suffer from this you know how uncomfortable it can be. 

Me and my trusted gang of researchers in the Let's Chat Wardrobe Wobbles group on Facebook have been on the interweb for you and found a few possible solutions that might help widen your wardrobe choices this summer and beyond. 

 

A low cost, portable option that your nana might have used back in the day 

 

 

Not the sexiest thing in the world but neither is red raw skin 

 

 

The ‘sexy’ solution - make sure you order the right size though or they roll up or fall down 

 

 

 

If you are looking for swimwear, the shops are starting to get stock in for the summer, buy early as they tend to sell out quickly especially online, in my experience. Here are a few tips for you… 

• Invest in bra sized swimwear if you are well endowed 

• Solid colour side panels give the illusion of a smaller middle 

• Mix and match tops and bottoms to suit your body shape 

• Shorts styles can make your legs look shorter/wider 

• Strapless and bandeau styles are best for smaller boobs and shoulders 

• Wide straps will make your shoulders look smaller 

• Heavily patterned tankini tops disguise spare tyres 

• Swim dresses are good for creating balance if your shoulders are wide 

• Triangle bikini tops and halter necks are good for column shapes 

• Brief skirts (all in one) are good if you are conscious of your hips/thighs 

 

Do you think they even notice? Perhaps they are so hung up on their own 'flaws' they have no interest or concerns with yours. 

 

My biggest 'flaw' in my eyes is my limp. I've had it since childhood, I've had lifelong problem with my hip and developed a limp after one of my surgeries despite my legs being the same length.  

 

My limp has even got a name, it's... called the 'Trendelenburg Gait'. it's a specific type of limp - not just a common or garden limp. 

 

Some days it's worse than others but it's always there. My big goal after my hip replacement a few years ago was to improve my gait - it didn't happen...I'm stuck with it. 

 

I'm not telling you this for sympathy or anything. I'm telling you in order to illustrate my point ...Just recently, twice within the space of a fortnight, I was asked why I was limping by people I'd known and mixed with in my networking circle for quite sometime, they thought I'd hurt myself. 

 

My biggest flaw had not even registered with them previously, something that I'm conscious about had not even been on their radar for whatever reason. 

 

Food for thought ladies...what are you focussing on that isn't really on anyone else's radar?