Fag Ash Lil
Posted on 6th January 2017 at 10:46
How's 2017 treating you so far? Have you watched any telly this week? How many programmes about diets and losing weight???!!!!
How's 2017 treating you so far?
Have you watched any telly this week? How many programmes about diets and losing weight???!!!! It's that time of year when we are bombarded with messages about New Year, new you and fresh starts blah, blah, blah and we perhaps take time to reflect on things we'd like to change. We might've made resolutions and broken them already.
I gave up smoking 6 years ago today not as a resolution though. It came about because I was going into hospital for a hip replacement and there was no way I'd be able to nip out for a fag. I had two packets with me 'just in case'. I remember one had 3 left in it and the other was full and unopened. I told myself that I'd just see how long I could manage without one, but if I was desperate they were in my handbag.
My life for the next 3-4 months was going to be recovering from the surgery, lots of reading and watching daytime telly. I managed 6 weeks before I cracked. I had my sister to stay, then my mum and they looked after me really well during my first few weeks of recovery...then, once I was more mobile and hobbling around on the crutches, all of a sudden I was home alone and felt lonely. I was trying to do something on the pc and it went 'wrong', I got frustrated and felt sorry for myself. My fags were in a cupboard by the back door and I sparked up through the tears. One puff and I had a word with myself! I recall saying out loud to myself 'Lisa wtf are you doing?' I threw the cigarette down and haven't touched one since.
For 32 years cigarettes had ruled my life to a certain degree. I was a proper Fag Ash Lil. They'd punctuated my day and cig breaks were something I had to plan in and make time for - especially once you couldn't smoke indoors. I always had to make sure that I had enough money in my purse for cigarettes, they were a priority above all else. These things that were proven to kill people were a BIG focus of my day - it was not negotiable. It's got me thinking...what do I place such importance these days??
Do I spend time on myself every day doing something really important, something non negotiable, something that would be good for me instead of killing me? No, I don't think I do. I could manage to prioritise cigarettes though, something is wrong there! Things that I know I ought to prioritise for my health and well being are often the things that get pushed to the back of the queue in my busy life juggling a business and my home life. For me it's stuff like seeing my friends, reading for pleasure, swimming and just pampering stuff like having a relaxing bath. It's all wrong isn't it?
I know that I'm not alone. Many of my clients come to me because they've got to a point in their lives where they are fed up of putting themselves at the back of the queue. They sometimes feel like they've lost their identity somewhere along the way - quite often it's because their priority has been looking after the family and they've had no time for themselves.
They've got into a rut of wearing the same old stuff because it's easy and perhaps have stopped wearing makeup unless it's special occasions. They often feel like they are just blending into the background and aren't reflecting what's on the inside because they still feel young at heart. So I help them figure out how they want to present themselves to the world. It’s a lovely thing to help someone 'find' themselves again and see their confidence shine through.
So with this in mind I'm starting my FREE 21 Day Challenge next Monday 9 Jan. If you feel like you are stuck in a bit of a style rut you might fancy joining in. Perhaps you could do it with friends and colleagues to brighten up January.
The aim of the challenge is to guide you through trying new things; to shake up, suss out or discover your unique personal style. It’s about giving you the confidence to explore and play with so that you develop or define your own style. You can dip in and out of the challenges on my main Facebook page or connect with other women in a safe, supportive environment in the Let’s Chat Style group. It’s up to you – but above all have some fun and enjoy!
If you'd like to download the pdf booklet so that you can plan ahead just click here
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